In this activity, participants will learn how the smallest conflict starts with a single seed. A seed might be a thought, a comment, or an action. But the seed can grow into something far bigger and devastating. Think of an example of conflict that is relevant to the participants. Maybe it is a small problem in the community or you could raise an example that the participants have already mentioned in previous activities.


  • What was the original seed of the conflict?

Once participants offer some answers, help them to reflect even further by asking:

  • What was before that?

If the conflict is personal and related to individuals in the room, ask them not to name names of those involved nor blame them. In this exercise, it is important to understand how conflict starts and grows. It is also important to understand this without blaming people.


  • What made the conflict grow?

Summarize all the answers and describe the growth of the conflict starting with the seed.

Continue by asking:

  • Think of a time when you had a small problem with a friend that escalated into a conflict. What was the seed of the conflict?
  • THow did it become a big problem?
  • TWhat feelings did you have? How did these contribute to the problem becoming a bigger conflict?

Now ask the group to write their reflections in their journal.