Discuss with participants the power of words to show both respect and disrespect. Ask participants how it feels when they are disrespected verbally; ask if they would want other people to feel the same way. Ask them to give examples of respectful words to describe people. If they offer a word that is disrespectful, gently ask them to clarify and help them find the appropriate word.

Give each participant a piece of lined paper. Instruct them to write the name of a group member on every second line until they have written all the names of people in the group. Next to the name they are invited to write one or two positive traits that describes the person. They should do this for each group member leaving a line in between each name so they can later cut the paper into strips.

For example:

Nimal is calm and peaceful

Geeta is kind


Ensure that they are aware they should only write nice/positive things. Ask for their agreement on this. Once they have filled out the sheet, instruct them to cut between the lines and fold each strip in half. Each participant is given a paper bag and they can write their name on it. All the strips should now be delivered to each participant’s bag (in the end nobody knows who wrote what, which is not important anyway).

Now each participant has a bag that contains many strips of paper that describes their nice qualities and they can take it home and look at it whenever they want.

Remember the facilitator is a role model for values and participants will absorb your traits, characteristics and language. The facilitator needs to develop their vocabulary and language of respect and use this all the time.